You’ve made it through another Christmas dinner with your aunt quizzing you about when you’re going to get married, but you might be dreading showing up alone to your New Year’s bash.
The festive season is a time of family, friends and catching up with loved ones. And while there is a certain romance in the air at parties during the silly season, a dating expert is telling us not to fret about being unattached.
For singles looking for love, Christmas time can sometimes serve as a reminder that they don’t have a significant other.
But that doesn’t mean you should start trying too hard, or give some new tactics a whirl, says Claire Certain, Head of Global Trends & Dating Expert at Happn. She says there are three common mistakes women make during the holidays.
Revisiting the past
“I often see women who are inspired by the warm and fuzzy feelings of Christmas, reach out to an ex in an attempt to revive an old flame,” Claire tells Be.
“Whilst this sometimes sees old couples reunite, it mostly ends in disappointment as both parties remember why they ended things in the first place.”
Not saying yes
While it’s easy to despair about being single and ignore invitations from friends or family, Claire encourages women to say yes.
“Say YES to that shopping trip for gifts, summertime beach excursion or Christmas drinks, even if it means hanging around other loved-up couples,” she says.
“You never know who you might meet or what connections you might form.”
Listening to pressure from the family
Despite what Aunty Mary might be saying, Claire says it’s ok to ignore them.
“When you’re around your long-term friends and extended family, especially those you don’t see very often throughout the year,” she says. “There’s a good chance they will ask about your love life or drop hints that they’re waiting to meet a boyfriend, or see you walk down the aisle.
“The best piece of advice I can give is to ignore their jibes and have confidence in yourself. If you’re not ready for a relationship, don’t let them convince you otherwise; if you’re looking for love, don’t let them rush you.”
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