Dot Com Adultery

Have you ever cheated on a significant other? Has a significant other ever cheated on you? Most people have experienced infidelity at some point in their lives, either from the victim's point of view or from the perpetrator's point of view. And while infidelity is certainly not a new concept in relationships, the Internet is making cheating easier than ever for those who are so inclined.

For example, consider the Ashley Madison Agency. The Ashley Madison Agency claims to be "the world's largest online social networking community [for] people who are already in relationships but still want to date." Currently, there are thousands of married members on the Ashley Web site seeking a sexy rendezvous or illicit tryst.

The members state that they are looking for intimacy, excitement, hot tubs, massages, foreplay, hugging, and cuddling in bed. Most of these members are married or in committed relationships -- and yet they feel as if they have to log on to a computer database to find intimacy. As upsetting as infidelity is, it is even more upsetting to think that marriages in this country are so broken that people need to look online for "hugs" and "make-out sessions."

It is widely known that the initial excitement and passion of a relationship fades away with time. The infatuation stage of a relationship usually fades for all couples anywhere from six months to three years into it. But this doesn't mean that the relationship is dying. It is simply evolving into something even more beautiful: the attachment phase. During the attachment phase, couples experience a softer, sweeter form of love. Helen Fisher, the author of The Anatomy of Love, describes the attachment phase as "the most elegant of human feelings, that sense of contentment, of sharing, of oneness with another human being."

It is sad to think that some people would throw away this elegant form of love to experience a cheap affair in a hotel room. If you are in a committed relationship and are becoming bored with your sexual routine, think before you cheat. In my experience, I have found that if both members of a couple are upfront about what they would like to improve in their sexual relationship, it is always possible to get them there.

Be honest with your partner about your need for a more passionate sex life, and then take the necessary steps to get there. Take a romantic vacation or meet each other at a local hotel for a sexy night of fun. Buy each other racy gifts and give each other sensual massages. In long-term relationships, it is natural and healthy for passion and excitement to take a little work.

Sites like Ashley Madison are guaranteed to break hearts and homes. Choose commitment and honesty instead. Re-dedicate yourself to your relationship, and you might be surprised at the wonderful results.

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