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The first date question that could make or break your relationship

There’s no doubt we’re living in a throwaway society when it comes to things like fashion and technology, however, now it seems to be affecting the dating world.

With dating apps on the rise, we are faced with an abundance of options that we can either swipe away or follow through with potentially leading to a date.

And if you do find yourself on a date, you might want to ask this one question that psychologists believe can either make or break your future relationship.

How they handled the break ups will reveal a lot about their true colours. Photo: Youtube
Trying to work out if it will last? Ask your date how their last relationship ended.

Speaking with Psychology Today, Robert Maurer said the simple way to work out what your date is like in a relationship is to ask them how their last one ended.

Sounds pretty simple. And yet terrifying.

But Robert says not to be put off asking about the other person’s past relationship. He suggests always starting off with a compliment such as “how come someone as wonderful as you is still single?”.

Then it’s about listening carefully.

Always ask your date about their past relationships. Photo: Getty
Ask nicely and listen carefully. Source: Getty

“As they relate the stories of their last relationship(s), are they taking any responsibility for choosing poorly or not having the right skills at that point in their lives,” Robert said.

If it sounds like they are always the victim and it was never their fault, he explains, then it’s time for you to bail.

Because every relationship at the end of the day will experience arguments and conflicts and you don’t want someone who will always wait for you to take the blame.

You want someone who is willing to work through conflict. Photo: Getty
Then the ball’s in your court. Source: Getty

“It is hard to make an effort to repair if every problem is the other person’s fault”, Robert explains.

“So look for someone who is willing to look inside for the source of the problem and for solutions, nothing is more vital for a relationship to thrive.”

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