Melbourne woman Gwyneth Montenegro worked as an escort for over a decade and claims to have slept with over 10,000 men in that time.
As such, she knows a thing or two about the opposite sex – and those who stray away from their partners in particular – and has some choice insights for women who don’t want to find themselves on the wrong end of a love triangle.
Gwyneth believes a primary reason men betray their partners is that they don’t feel needed enough, both inside and outside the bedroom.
“Men are similar to women, they've got feelings too. They want that feeling and connection and to feel close and wanted and needed,” Gwyneth, who charged up to $1000 an hour, told the Daily Mail last year.
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“Men don't cheat because they can, they don't cheat because of what's between their legs. Men want to feel masculine, men are terrified of losing their virility.”
Part of this has to do with their ability to give pleasure, and she says the majority of her clients have made an effort to really please her, not just themselves.
“They want to go home and please their women, and they’re frustrated because they can't,” she said.
Gwyneth became a sex worker at age 21 and while she’s since retired from the industry, she now wants to use her 12 years of experience to help other women.
She admits most of the men she saw felt “emasculated” in their relationship and used sex as a way to feel more empowered.
Speaking about her own past, Gwyneth told news.com.au that she never wanted to get into the sex industry but after being the victim of a horrific gang rape at 18, she “kind of changed my opinion about myself”.
Describing herself as a “good country girl” who was naive when she started out, Gwyneth first began stripping before she made the switch to sex work.
“It was totally surreal. Once you’ve been paid for sex once, you can’t take that back,” she told the publication.
During her career, the blonde reveals she saw a lot of men who struggled with the idea of masculinity and explains a lot of her time was spent talking to her clients.
“A lot of the time the grip is they don’t know what it is to be a man anymore,” she said. “They’ve lost their way. That’s what I’ve seen in my clients.”
Now Gywneth is trained in neuro-linguistic programming which helps people with personal development and published her book 10,000 Men and Counting in 2014.