Get Motivated!

Are you the victim or the victor? Author and motivation expert Justin Herald tells it like it is.

There are two types of people when it comes to things that don't work out the way they had planned. Those that bounce back, and those that play the victim card.

Having a mentality that makes you out to be a victim is not the way to go. All you do then is admit defeat in life by acting upon a negative platform. It is all about what you think you need to hear instead of what needs to be said. You are basically admitting that you are giving up and you will blame everyone for everything bad that you have or will go through for the rest of your life. You believe that you are right and justified in your thinking and actions no matter what anyone else says. This is what I call the handout mentality.

The handout mentality basically says that everybody owes you. You may have put in the hard work over the years; you may have tried to get ahead. You may have even tasted some success and then lost it all. So, that being the case, the world now owes you.

No matter where you have been in life, what you have been through or even what unfortunate thing may have happened to you, if you want to reach those goals and realise dreams that you have set for yourself, then you are the one that needs to get you there. By thinking you are "owed", you will only force yourself backwards, as you aren't owed anything in life. And if you go about thinking that you are, what you create for yourself is an environment that says, it's okay to fall short of my goals, because someone else will pick me up and take me to them. You are under the illusion that everything will work out for you because you are owed success.

What a joke. Nobody owes you anything. The minute you start thinking like this you just set yourself up to fall short of your goals and dreams every time. The only person that owes you anything is you!

People who are stuck in this mentality need to change from being victims to victors over their own situations. Ultimately, your situations will only change when you do. The victim mentality is a destructive one. The problem with thinking like that is you start to believe that you are at a disadvantage. The only way to change your situation tomorrow is through the changes you implement within your thinking and your actions today.

It really comes down to how much you want your situation to change. We all need to stop focusing on "why" we are where we are in our lives to "what" we are going to do about it to make it better. Ultimately it doesn't matter why you are where you are in your life now. Nothing can be changed by blaming someone else. Just get back up, dust yourself off and start again.

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This is an extract from Justin Herald's new book Get Motivated! Published by Allen & Unwin, RRP $17.95.
For more information on Justin visit http://www.justinherald.com