She’s slept with over 10,000 men since becoming a sex worker at the age of 21, and now Melbourne woman Gwyneth Montenegro is using her experience to teach women about relationships.
The 39-year-old no longer works in the sex industry but is now sharing all the secrets she learnt during her 12-year career to help others.
“Detach the emotions - look at it from the outside. The man will give you all the cues from his behaviour and his relationships,” she told news.com.au.
“You’ll be able to pick out if this person is going to be a long term thing or not really the right fit for you.”
Gwyneth, who charged up to $1000 an hour, admits most men she saw felt ‘emasculated’ in their relationship and used sex as a way to feel more empowered.
“They’re seeking validity for their virility,” she explains. “Virility is very important to men.”
Gwyneth also reveals she never wanted to get into the sex industry in the first place, but a horrific incident when she was 18 changed her life forever.
“I was 18, I went out to a nightclub and my drink was spiked and I got taken away and gang raped by 6 to 8 men — I can’t remember exactly how many because I was so out of it,” she told news.com.au. “It kind of changed my opinion about myself.”
Describing herself as a “good country girl” who was naive when she started out, Gwyneth first began stripping before she made the switch to sex work.
“It was totally surreal. Once you’ve been paid for sex once, you can’t take that back,” she told the publication.
During her career, the blonde reveals she saw a lot of men who struggled with the idea of masculinity and explains a lot of her time was spent talking to her clients.
“A lot of the time the grip is they don’t know what it is to be a man anymore,” she says. “They’ve lost their way. That’s what I’ve seen in my clients.”
Now Gywneth is trained in neuro-linguistic programming which helps people with personal development and published her book '10,000 Men and Counting' in 2014.