Why career women struggle to find love

With so many women choosing to place a heavy focus on their careers, it can sometimes be difficult to take a step back from the professional mindset.

Especially, it seems, when in the pursuit of love.

According to Yvonne Allen, a professional matchmaker and relationship mentor of over 40 years, in an era where women have had to “man-up”, they’re losing their gentle femininity, which is fundamental to the laws of attraction and relationship building.

“So many of us are focusing on achieving, but have done that at the expense of taking care of themselves – particularly holding on to the strong female aspects of a woman,” Yvonne tells Be.

Having heard it all before – “all the good ones are gone,” “men are intimidated by career women,” “I’m too busy to worry about a relationship” – Yvonne says there are simple tricks to help separate the two worlds.

“Sometimes many women aren’t aware that they have a certain persona at work, and they need to shrug that off in their personal life. It’s like their flirty side has gone missing,” Yvonne says.

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“Say you go on a date after work, try and do something to put yourself out of work-mode – change your top for example and don’t talk about work.”

Over the years Yvonne says she has helped countless women find professional success and love and offers some advice to the single ladies in the workforce.

Re-assess what you’re looking for. Chances are, the man you think you want is not the man you truly need. If you are both highly successful go-getters, how do you anticipate your schedules will align? Forget social norms and pre-conceived ideals and look for someone who can complement your life, and you theirs.

Don’t let your tough exterior get in the way. Often women, particularly those who’ve been hurt in the past, don’t want to appear weak or vulnerable. In doing so, they appear ‘hard’. This approach can lead to eligible men being put-off.

You are not ‘too busy’ for love. Yes, career success is greatly rewarding, but it can come at an enormous cost to your personal happiness and general wellbeing. Make sure you are not compromising what could be a meaningful relationship, because of career commitments.

Don’t adopt a ‘male persona’. While this may have benefits in the professional arena, it can be detrimental in your personal life. Take pride in your femininity and nurture your softer side

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