Mel Greig: I've stumbled on the secret to attracting men

I’d heard the rumours but I never quite believed it - in order to get a man interested in you, you need to be disinterested in them.

I’m not talking about faking you aren’t keen, or pretending you aren’t looking for a man, you need to live and breathe the vibe that you really aren’t into him no matter what.

I have tried nearly every trick in the book. Play it cool. Be yourself. Get drunk and be a crazy b***h and send 100 messages that don’t make sense. Pretend you aren’t keen.

But clearly if we look at my track record, none of those tactics have been very successful, and god forbid you’re kind to someone and try to help them, you might end up with a Mr Scumbag Face ripping you off (read back through my column, he was a real treat) but this new tactic was one I hadn’t really tried before because I’d never genuinely felt this way and wasn’t even trying.

Because of my failed adventure of the past couple of months, I turned the corner into a phase where I just, to be frank, hated men. I was so put off by what happened that I looked at them all the same, and the strangest thing happened.

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Maybe they could sniff out my pheromones, but men started coming to me and saying “Why haven’t we gone out yet?” or “God you’re looking good lately”. These were comments from guys I’d previously met who were acting as though they’d just discovered me. Maybe my scent of desperation had started to fade and the “I don’t give a f**k scent” was the one they were attracted to?

It’s such a tricky situation because in order for me to go on a date with them, I need to stop hating men, and as soon as I do that, I’ll probably smell of desperation again - I just can’t win. It’s so hard trying to just be yourself in the modern dating world but you need to stick to your guns because the right guy will get it… when you eventually find him, in like 80 years, and when you don’t even have a working lady hole anymore.

I actually had a bit of a naughty night recently. I needed to have a positive encounter after an extremely negative one. I was fine with it being a bit of a fling, but I didn’t hear from the guy again so I decided to stay true to myself and I pulled him up on it because even though it was a one off, the right thing to do is at least flick through a respectful but token message within the first few days, if not the day after.

He ended up calling straight away and didn’t want me thinking that he was a s**t bloke. It’s just further proof that men and women are clearly on different wave lengths with our expectations of each other.

I’ll be honest, dating life is really testing me lately. I’m just going to hold out hope that Sophie Monk share’s her Bachelorette Rejects #helpthesinglegirls

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