From fending off unsolicited snaps to getting RSI from all the Tinder swiping you’re doing, sometimes it’s too easy to give up on the pursuit of love.
But while you might be tempted to throw your phone down and swear off love for life, one Aussie matchmaker reveals there’s one thing you might be doing yourself that is putting up roadblocks on your path to finding The One.
Linda Prescott from Ideal Introductions claims singletons can be guilty of one big mistake that holds them back – and it’s all about self-sabotage.
“Some people are scared of getting hurt, they put up these barriers because if they open up to falling in love again, they might get their heart broken,” Linda tells Be.
“A lot of it is to do with past relationships.
“Look at your old relationships, because a lot of people have unhealthy relationship patterns. It’s often because people choose you, rather than you choosing them.”
From opting out of dates or deciding straight off the bat someone isn’t for them, this self-sabotage is something romance seekers need to be aware of, and address.
According to Linda, who's helped orchestrate 1100 marriages, it’s all about being open and giving anything – and anyone – a chance, so long as they fit in with what you’re looking for.
“Make a list of five things of five things you know are going to be really important moving forward in a relationship,” advises Linda.
“When you meet someone new, if they don’t have those basic things, don’t waste your time. Don’t waste their time either.”
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