If you thought you had a pushy mum then spare a thought for this bride, who isn’t speaking to her mother after she said something awful about one of her bridesmaids.
The mum wrote into the Dear Prudence column on a website called Slate, asking for the write, Mallory Ortberg, to give her some advice about her daughter’s wedding.
According to the mum, one of the bridesmaids is like a daughter to her but because she has a limp, she doesn’t believe she should be included in the bridal party.
“My 27-year-old daughter and her best friend, Katie, have been best friends since they were 4. Katie practically grew up in our house and is like a daughter to me,” the mum started.
“My daughter recently got engaged to her fiancé and announced that Katie would be the maid of honor (Katie’s boyfriend is also a good friend of my future son-in-law).
“The problem is that Katie walks with a pretty severe limp due to a birth defect (not an underlying medical issue).”
The mum went on to claim that Katie has no issues with walking in high heels and has actually already been fitted for her bridesmaids dress.
“I still think it will look unsightly if she’s in the wedding procession limping ahead of my daughter,” she said.
The mum recommended to her daughter that Katie could instead “take video or hand out programs (while sitting) so she doesn’t ruin the aesthetic aspect of the wedding”.
Needless to say, her daughter is no longer speaking to her and now the mum wants all the advice she can get.
Mallory Ortberg wrote back to the mum’s question, saying she was having a hard time “wrapping her head around this letter” and told her to ask herself: “Do I sound like a villain in a Reese Witherspoon movie?”.
“This girl is “like a daughter” to you, and yet you want to shove her to the side of your other daughter’s wedding just because she walks with a limp,” she wrote.
“A limp is not a fly in the ointment; it’s a part of Katie’s life. It is not only wrong to have asked your daughter to consider excluding her best friend over this—it is ableist, and cruel, and it speaks to a massive failure of empathy, compassion, and grace on your part.
“You must and should apologize to your daughter immediately, and I encourage you to profoundly reconsider the orientation of your heart.”