A new mum is upset after her in-laws announced the birth of her baby on social media despite her and her husband asking them not to.
You don’t need to be a parent to understand that making a ‘Welcome to the world baby X’ announcement is a big deal for many new mums and dads.
So you can understand one mum’s frustration when she was beaten to the big reveal by her in-laws.
Taking to parenting site Mumsnet, the women explained how angry she was that despite being asked not to, her in-laws had gone ahead and announced their baby news online.
“My In Laws are first time grandparents and had announced the birth of our child on social media after DH specifically told them not to and that we would do it once we get home from the hospital the next day,” she wrote.
“Would you mind if that happened or Am I Being Unreasonable [sic]?” she finished her post.
She later returned to the forum to explain her husband had waited three hours to call them after the baby was born, but they were angry as they wanted to be told immediately.
“Then MIL [mother-in-law] must have said something like “can you announce something on facebook” to which he replied “no, we will do that once we are home” (he also said she said to “hurry up” because they couldn’t wait any longer).”
She went on to say that while she was at the hospital and her husband went home overnight, he started receiving congratulatory messages from people.
“Then he called me and we were both furious,” she wrote.
And other parents were quick to offer their opinions on the thorny subject with many users revealing that they would also be upset in the same situation.
“This would have made me beyond furious,” one user wrote.
“It is YOUR news to announce, when YOU are ready. If for no other reason than, as you experienced, sometimes you want to take a step back from the 500 text and facebook messages you will receive as a result. They were completely out of order.”
“I think anyone would understand perfectly when asked not to announce such a significant event before the people involved get a chance to,” another agreed.
“I would see it as either intentionally rude or thoughtlessly disrespectful for someone to go ahead and do so after that request.”
“I would be absolutely f***ing [sic] raging!! That kind of news if [sic] for no one other than the parents to announce. You can’t do anything to make up for that, I would never forget,” one user posted.
But others couldn’t see what the problem was.
“I think you’re being a bit unreasonable,” one user wrote. “Yes, your news to tell but I think disobeyed an instruction and apology being demanded is a bit much. Your husband made his point so move on.”
“I would struggle to get worked up about this if I’d just had a baby. Enjoy her/him and stop worrying [sic] about social media,” another offered.
“I wouldn’t mind. But I think I’m very much in the minority,” another user wrote.
“I hate making announcements in any format so if someone else takes over the responsibility it’s good for me. Like I say, minority view though!”
Other users shared similar stories of birth announcement hijacks.
“My MIL announced on FB everything as well,” one mum wrote. “I had only been out of theatre an hour and I started getting texts from friends saying congratulations. She had posted how the delivery went, name, weight. I was livid.”
“DM [Dear Mother] did this with both my children. I was upset at the time but meh – it’s only Facebook. Not worth falling out about. I just put it down to her being over excited and getting carried away,” another user shared.