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New mum's honest response to 'when are you due?'


“When are you due?”

It’s a simple question that can hold so much weight for a woman – whether you’re not pregnant at all (hello, food baby), having a difficult pregnancy or, in one mum’s case, have actually already given birth.

For one mum, this question came four weeks after giving birth to her first child.

Aussie blogger Laura Mazza often finds comedy in her day-to-day life, building a community of online followers who share in her writings, but this post was different for her followers.

Laura was asked ‘when are you due?’ Photo: Facebook/Lauren Mazza
Laura was asked ‘when are you due?’ Photo: Facebook/Lauren Mazza

“I got asked the three words that every woman dreads when she is not pregnant (well four words). ‘So when are you due?’ Not due for my period, not due for a poo, not due for the promotion… when am I due to have my baby? That’s what she meant. (My husband said maybe she meant something else worried I’d be upset… no that’s what she meant),” Laura wrote on Facebook.

“I wanted to say, well actually I had him a month ago, but instead I said ‘October!’ Because I’m an idiot and didn’t want her to feel bad.”

However, Laura said that instead of feeling bad about herself, she gave herself a break.

I wasn’t upset. I wasn’t sad. I wasn’t embarrassed. I didn’t feel bad. I still look pregnant, and really, why the f*** wouldn’t I,” she wrote.

Photo: Facebook
Photo: Facebook

“I keep having babies two years apart. I’ve grown their bones, their eyes, their little noses and toes, and I’ve created their little beautiful hearts. My organs squished down to allow them to grow and my muscles separated to let them grow bigger. I birthed them from my lady garden and my sun roof, and I fed them from my body. I stayed up all night feeding them. I am watching them grow and nurturing them, and looking after them from a place of pure exhaustion.”

A friend of mine expressed about feeling so upset that she still had her mum body three months after having her baby… I mean why do I, or she, have to worry about hiding the evidence of all that we have achieved? All that we have made? Why should we feel bad? Why should anyone?”

Laura’s honest post has resonated with followers worldwide, with many mums sharing their own stories.

Laura is a mum-of-three. Photo: Facebook
Laura is a mum-of-three. Photo: Facebook

I was asked this when out buying painkillers a few weeks ago. The lady behind the counter gestured towards my wobbly belly and said ‘they’re not advised during pregnancy…’ I looked her dead square in the eyes and said ‘I just love cake’. I’ve never seen that shade of red on a woman before. She couldn’t apologise enough! Safe to say three babies in three years has left it’s mark,” commented one follower.

The mum of two understands the pressures pointed at women’s bodies. With such a positive response online, Laura is hopeful women will begin to embrace their postpartum bodies and her story will discourage others from placing judgment on physical appearance.

“On our death beds, are we going to be talking about how we looked after giving birth, or are we going to be talking about the people we gave birth to? So if you’re still looking pregnant, if you’ve been mistaken for being pregnant, if you got this delicious overhang like me, embrace it,” she said.

“It’s OK to want to change your body but don’t spend one more second hating it in the interim, it’s done something wonderful, it’s made life.


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