Finding out your wife is in love with someone else would be cause for divorce for most couples.
But when Joey Triplett’s wife Crystal told him that she had fallen for a younger woman, he gave his blessing to their relationship – and set in motion a chain of events that led to the three of them living together in a polyamorous ‘triad’.
Joey, 37, and Crystal, 35, met in 2001 and married in 2004, with their son Jamison arriving five years later.
But 12 years into their marriage, Crystal befriended Jamie, now 23, at a car club meet and an intense attraction blossomed between them.
“Jamie came into my life and and we instantly became best friends,” Crystal told Barcroft TV.
“She was over here at our house with us every weekend, and as we got to know each other more, we just developed a romantic liking for each other.”
It’s something Joey didn’t mind when Crystal finally confessed her feelings.
“I kind of already knew,” he said.
“A lot of people think that Crystal and I had a rocky relationship and that’s why we brought someone else into the relationship but that’s not the case at all.
“We didn’t even know there was a word for this, polyamory wasn’t a thing that we had ever heard about or talked of.
“I knew she was bisexual when we got together, and I gave them my blessing completely when it came to forming the relationship.
“At that point in time, Jamie and I had developed a really good friendship, I never felt threatened by her or that she would pry us apart or tear Crystal away from me.”
In turn, Jamie reassured Joey and Crystal that she didn’t want to break the young family up.
Within months, Jamie had moved into the family’s home in Cecil, Arkansas, as Crystal’s girlfriend.
But it wasn’t long before feelings started to develop between Joey and Jamie.
“We spent so much time together, two attractive people hanging out, it was kind of inevitable,” said Joey.
“I pulled Crystal aside and was like, “I’m not trying to rain on y’alls parade, but I am developing feelings for Jamie as well’.
“Crystal took it pretty hard. She was pretty upset by the situation.”
Crystal confessed to finding it difficult to accept her two partners’ newfound attraction to one another.
“I was the jealous person,” she said. I had a very hard time with it. I didn’t know how to process it. There is no set of rules for a polyamorous relationship – you just have to figure it out as you go.
Eventually, Crystal gave the couple her blessing, telling Joey that if he was going to fall in love with something, she “couldn’t imagine it being anyone else but Jamie”.
Four years on, the car-obsessed trio live and love together in what they call a ‘polyamorous and polyfidelis closed triad’, meaning they are all faithful to one another, and they say they have no plans to add anyone else to their relationship.
The threesome raise son Jamison as a family unit, and stress that all three parents have an equal say in the parenting process, with Jamie insisting she would “do anything in the world” for him.
While Jamie has no legal rights towards Jamison, the threesome are also making plans for Joey and Jamie to have a baby together.
“Joey and I do plan on having a baby very soon hopefully,” said Jamie. “I’m not pregnant, and am not trying to get pregnant, but very soon I will be. I just know it.”
Joey added: “Bigamy is illegal, so legally the only thing we could do would be for us adopt Jamie, but that’s even weirder!
“We do want to have a child together, and that is something that you don’t need paperwork for, that’s a binding contract in life. We all know how babies are made, so we’re just going to get some practice in!”
And asked about how the three-way dynamic works in the bedroom, Joey said: “It works out very well.
“We try to be together as much as possible, the three of us, but sometimes that’s not possible, we’re all very adult, we understand that we all love each other and have desires and needs.”
Despite coming from “small town USA”, Joey admits they’ve never encountered any judgement about their relationship.
“In the town Jamison goes to school, I’m sure they talked about us at first – it’s small town USA, little main street and the court house – but it’s the last place in the world I expected to be so accepting,” he said.
““I get a lot of high-fives from it. A lot of my friends are definitely jealous of the situation.
“Both of the girls come up and kiss me at a ball game, I have my arms around them. We’re just normal.”
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